I have so much I want to write about, so I guess I’ll call this one “Monday Miscellany” since I don’t have time to devote a whole blogpost to each item. Here’s some stuff I’ve been thinking about.
I hopped onto Pinterest earlier today to look for a recipe. As I typed my search words in, I noticed one of the posts Pinterest thought I might enjoy. It said: “How I got my baby to sleep 12 hours at night by 8 weeks old!” When my oldest daughter was a newborn, I scoured baby magazines for the “magical secret” that would get my baby to sleep better. I was desperate for sleep. But now, as I look back, I wish I could tell my 23-year-old self a few things. One of the things I would tell her is that as much as she thinks she wants her baby to sleep through the night, she really doesn’t. (This is me speaking for myself, and I don’t pretend to speak for anyone else.)
Every time my first two babies woke up at night, a part of me groaned inside. Although I was committed to breastfeeding on-demand and felt in my heart that responding to their night-time needs was important, a part of me resented them for interrupting my sleep. When my third baby came along, I learned about the Lactational Amenorrhea Method (LAM) and wondered how I had never heard of it before. I didn’t/don’t use LAM for birth control, but I do try to encourage night-feedings as a means of delaying the return of my monthly cycle.
My 3rd, 4th, and now 5th babies became my best buds at night-time after learning about LAM. Now, instead of resenting the sleep interruptions, I eagerly feed Baby Hope at night because I know that she is helping me avoid the hormonal upheaval of PMS, and that is a beautiful, fabulous thing. In fact I don’t like to let her sleep for too long at night without nursing, in part because engorgement is uncomfortable but mostly because I don’t want my period to come back. :-)
You can read more about LAM and the relationship between breastfeeding and fertility at KellyMom.
The Spark of Life
Maybe you saw this in the news already, but just in case you hadn’t yet…. Scientists have visual documentation of a “spark of life” at the moment of conception.
“It was remarkable,” says one of the team, Teresa Woodruff. “We discovered the zinc spark just five years ago in the mouse, and to see the zinc radiate out in a burst from each human egg was breathtaking” (Source).
I’m seeing conflicting stories in the news about whether there is actually a flash of light or whether the scientists just used special equipment that allowed the zinc to be seen as a flash of light. But either way it’s super cool to see. I’ll embed the video below…
Amazon recommended this book for me based on other books I’ve purchased. It’s a few years old, but I definitely want to check it out. From the synopsis:
Compassionate and based on the latest research, Scared Sick will unveil a major public health crisis. Highlighting case studies and cutting-edge scientific findings, Karr-Morse shows how our innate fight-or-flight system can injure us if overworked in the early stages of life. Persistent stress can trigger diabetes, heart disease, obesity, depression, and addiction later on.
I’ve shared before that the ACE (adverse childhood experiences) study published in 2002 found that there is a “powerful relation between our emotional experiences as children and our adult emotional health, physical health, and major causes of mortality. . . . One doesn’t ‘just get over’ some things” (ACE study). If you are experiencing poor mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual health, it’s likely that a traumatic event from your past (or an ancestor’s past) could be a major contributing factor.
I’m pretty confident that my childhood traumas were a contributing factor in my poor mental health as an adult, but I’m hopeful that my children won’t suffer as I have (despite possible genetic predispositions) because their childhoods have been so much more peaceful than mine was.
Baby Hope is 4 months old now. So far her eyes are staying gray/blue. All of my older kids have brown/green eyes like their dad. Crossing my fingers she’ll keep my eye color!
My favorite things she’s doing these days… laughing, blowing bubbles, “talking”, smiling at her reflection in the mirror, and giving me slobbery wet “kisses.” The rolling over freaks me out. Babies are so much safer when they can’t move anywhere. Eeek!
Last week I shared some of my thoughts on Mother’s Day at The Gift of Giving Life blog. This Mother’s Day I have so much to celebrate. Here’s an excerpt:
That’s what Mother’s Day will be for me this year… A celebration of the gift of life. A celebration of the ones who gave us this messy, brutal, exquisitely beautiful thing we’re living every day. I will celebrate those who have had the courage to give life, and with an extra measure of compassion and awe I will also celebrate those who have had the courage to give life a chance. And to keep giving life a chance… day in and day out… even when those days are full of ache.
I am so glad your mother gave you the gift of life. I am so glad you exist. And every day that you choose to keep going is a gift to humanity and yourself.
Some gift ideas…
- Gifts that Heal
- Mother-Daughter Book Recommendations
- No-Sew Baby Wrap Instructions
- Baby Shower Basket Essentials
- Soothe Your Life with Magnesium